OK, so apparently I got a lot of peoples attention with my last blog about oral sex.  The stats were off the charts.  I figured I would throw another controversial one at you.  I got a question this week about anal sex and whether you are still a virgin if you have anal sex.  Apparently teens are looking for creative ways to keep their “virginity”.  Anal sex has become very popular among teens who do not want to give up their virginity.

Too bad anal sex is still sex!  It carries all the same risks, and constitutes being sexually active just as vaginal sex would.  It also carries other risks such as potential for increased risk of disease transmission.

Teens really need to think about why they are going down this path.  Are they doing it for the label of virginity?  Are they doing it to make someone else happy?  What does it mean to them to be a virgin?

Teens need to understand that any type of sex carries risks.  It is important for them to think through the decision and not to be caught off guard.  Knowing how you feel about all the different types of sex ahead of time can keep you from doing things that you may or may not regret.

I spoke to a thirteen year old girl who told me that had she been aware of what “blow jobs” were when she was younger, (age 11) she would not have gotten herself into a situation that felt abusive to her later.  I have heard the same said of anal sex.

Teens need to know the things that they will be faced with so they can make a choice based on forethought instead of impulse.  Decisions about sex need to be taken seriously because they will have an impact on the rest of their life.

Remember that you are amazing and worth loving no matter what, consider your choices carefully!